Either/Or Questions

You're Leaving Me for Who?
If your spouse was going to leave you for another person, would you rather them leave you for EITHER another lover of the opposite sex as you OR another lover of the same sex as you?
RE: same sex, i think
but it still isn't such a stigma anyway. as i said before. it is no more shallow than men looking for the centerfold instead of the nicest girl with the best personality. it was just a comment that i heard mike say once.
(December 10, 2002 ~ 7:05 PM)
By mary j

RE: same sex, i think
Awwww crap!! Did I do it again?? Son of a %^&**(!! LMAO!!! You got me there...and even after I did a post at RITRO.com about it too! Shame on me!
(December 03, 2002 ~ 10:04 AM)
By anastacia bateman

RE: same sex, i think
*LMAO* - Loser, Stacey -- Loser! (one "o", not two) *LMAO* -- just chops bustin', 'cause it's fun!
(December 02, 2002 ~ 9:03 PM)
By Wendi Cali

RE: same sex, i think
Here, here, Wendi--I could give a fat rats ass about whats in the wallet/pocketbook either. I mean, I don't want some looser who refuses to work and lays around all day but...he or she dont have to be rich or well off either.
(December 02, 2002 ~ 9:02 AM)
By anastacia bateman

RE: same sex, i think
I don't think it's always that we don't know what we want, it's that what we want and need changes over time... and as for the pocketbook comment, no - not me. I could give a rats ass about pocketbook. I just want love.
(November 29, 2002 ~ 9:21 AM)
By Wendi Cali

RE: same sex, i think
it works for us. and it would not work any other way. i think both sexes don't always know what they want. i think men tend to want MORE. women tend to want MORE in the pocketbook. :(
(November 27, 2002 ~ 8:16 PM)
By mary j

RE: same sex, i think
19 years? Wow--thats a long time and yous dont live together? admireable! But--I saw it said that men dont know what they want--and while I believe that is true for some--I believe that women just as much dont know what they want all the time either.
(November 27, 2002 ~ 1:35 PM)
By anastacia bateman

RE: same sex, i think
but we are togeter because we don't LIVE together. we have been together almost 19 years. a weekend relationship that works fine for both of us. we each get our valuable (to us) space. being comfortable seems pretty important to me now. when i was younger that was not a priority.
(November 18, 2002 ~ 7:39 PM)
By mary j

RE: same sex, i think
This is the best thing I've read so far today. I think I'll read it again, perhaps even write it down and then share the concept with a friend or two. Great thinking -- especially the part about don't lie, cheat or try to fool us both.
(November 18, 2002 ~ 9:47 AM)
By Wendi Cali

RE: same sex, i think
Yes, that's true -- many men don't know what they want, or they want more than they can have -- and that's fine with me. Just be honest and upfront with me from the beginning -- a relationship can last for 5 years and then we can move on -- I can live with that! Love isn't selfish or possessive, and as long as the relationship is allows us both to grow then it's all good ... I guess I'm saying if a man wants to be with me, he has to be honest with what he wants upfront, and if he changes his mind later, that's fine -- but don't cheat, lie and try to fool us both -- that's just stupid and it wastes both of our time and energy. Life is short -- why bother with that? Heh ... I'm glad you got a man who you feel comfortable with ... that's always a good thing...
(November 18, 2002 ~ 9:21 AM)
By Tanya Ruys

RE: same sex, i think
you aren't harsh. but i will say men don't know what they want (or they sure aren't very monogomous). if my sig. other did this, i would not bother with him or any other man again.. i find men are too much trouble. i do love my man tho. we are very comfortable together. like two old shoes. :)
(November 15, 2002 ~ 5:45 PM)
By mary j

RE: I'm going with the popular vote
that's it! the ego. being dumped. but really you can't compete if your mate changed his sexual preference. if it is about which will hurt less, i agree.
(November 15, 2002 ~ 5:38 PM)
By mary j

RE: same sex, i think
just so you know, when i used the word "queen" i was not being demeaning, i meant that this guy expected his boyfriends to bring him flowers and candy. that he expected to be the center of attention. i agree it is NOT ok and this guy was very irresponsible. i never thought it was ok. he disappointed me as far as his attitude to other people. obviously, he only existed for himself. but he came across as a VERY nice kind person. i considered him one of the kindest people i knew until i learned about his flip way of treating others when he knew he could kill them. i guess he was trying to get even. but he couldn't really do that, because whoever gave it to him was already dead.
(November 15, 2002 ~ 5:34 PM)
By mary j

RE: same sex, i think
Well ... if my guy left me for another woman, I wouldn't want him back -- too much of a hassle and too much heartbreak -- it wouldn't be worth it to me even I loved that person. I mean, I'd be constantly laying awake at nights wondering if I'm good enough for him, or if he'll do it again ... its just .. nah ... I'd much rather be alone. Love is one thing, but that doesn't mean I have to live with a cheater ... perhaps we'd still be friends and stuff and even sleep together, but that would be it. But then again, it depends on the circumstances. But basically it's just a matter of self respect. If you want to be with me, be sure you want to be with me, cuz once you betray me, that's it. Love ain't enough ... and if he truly loved me, he wouldn't have left me in the first place ... yeah I'm pretty harsh, aren't I? But why bother with people who don't know what they want? I've got my life to live, and love ain't the only thing I've got to focus on ....
(November 15, 2002 ~ 1:06 PM)
By Tanya Ruys

RE: I'm going with the popular vote
yepper it would just be easier if it were for the same sex.
(November 15, 2002 ~ 12:29 PM)
By anastacia bateman

RE: same sex, i think
No, it's not okay at all ever for someone who knows that they are infected with AIDS or HIV to sleep around, queen or not, without letting their parteners know they have contracted the virus. That is a poosible death sentence and that's not cool. I know and have known and hung out with countless gays and lesbians, quens and whatever but they all respect the lifestyle and i think that is very important. that the lifestyle is respected. There are rules-1-you don't sleep around having the virus without letting the partener know and 2-you do not hit on someone else if you dont know if they are gay or not.
(November 15, 2002 ~ 12:28 PM)
By anastacia bateman

RE: same sex, i think
i only knew one gay man. i thought he was such a nice guy. when i heard he had aids i felt so bad. but this guy i found out knew he had aids and was taking on new lovers constantly. he was a queen if you know what i mean. i felt the guy was committing murder. he seemed so nice yet he was so self centered and irresponsible.
(November 14, 2002 ~ 8:39 PM)
By mary j

RE: same sex, i think
but there is another way to look at it. if it is for someone of the opposite sex you may still have a chance to get him back--if you wanted to. where there may be nothing you can do if it a same sex lover and you may feel less dumped, there is no way to compete.
(November 14, 2002 ~ 8:37 PM)
By mary j

RE: same sex, i think
hahaha, stacey. me too, hun. Same sex, I'd have to say. Cuz then we can still be friends and gay men are so much fun.
(November 14, 2002 ~ 3:05 PM)
By Tanya Ruys

RE: what difference would it really make?
either way i would feel the same. either very sad or maybe *relief* LOL
(October 28, 2002 ~ 3:06 PM)
By mary j

RE: what difference would it really make?
Doesn't mean you'll feel any better, but hopefully not worse then it already is.
(October 28, 2002 ~ 9:46 AM)
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